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abrasive

abrasive

18 6.5
Showing little concern for other people's feelings
  • adjective
  • /əˈbreɪsɪv/
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  • The so-called Attorney General is abrasive, evasive and unpersuasive.
  • abrasive personality

She has a way that she speaks that is less abrasive than my man voice.

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Examples

  • Some people find his abrasive manner hard to deal with in conversations.

  • Michael's personality, though, was so abrasive that Diana tried her best to keep those feelings buried.

    Fiction book (2002)
  • At work, when you act like one of the boys, they call you abrasive and difficult.

  • Are you always so abrasive?

  • I'm not really this abrasive, but you have to be to do this job.

  • Rachel, you can be a little abrasive!

  • You can be... really abrasive sometimes, you know, that's all.

  • You don't have to be so abrasive.

  • He can sound condescending to people, like he can sound very abrasive to people.

  • Georgy was simply too loud, too abrasive, and altogether too forthright to be a natural friend.

    Fiction book (1995)

Synonyms

harsh
vsabrasive
289 2.8

Unkind and too strict in what someone says or does to others

is more personal in its insensitivity rather than general severity
blunt
vsabrasive
100 3.8

Speaking in a direct, plain way that can sound rude

is more about showing little concern for others' feelings
brutal
vsabrasive
50 4.1

Very direct and harsh in a way that can hurt people

is more about uncaring attitude toward feelings than mere bluntness
sharp
vsabrasive
46 4.2

Harsh critical words or actions that hurt others

is more focused on causing hurt by ignoring others' feelings
unkind
vsabrasive
44 1.0

Not friendly or caring to other people

is more about harsh directness and little concern for feelings
strident
vsabrasive
22 7.2

Very loud and harsh in a way that feels unpleasant

is less about volume and more about ignoring others' feelings
acerbic
vsabrasive
8 8.2

Speech or writing that is harsh and likely to offend people

is more about personal insensitivity than simply sharp criticism
unsparing
vsabrasive
2 7.9

Very harsh and not forgiving when criticizing or acting

is more about personal disregard for feelings than sheer ruthlessness
untactful
vsabrasive
7.2

Not careful about other people's feelings when you speak or act, making others feel bad

is harsher, showing little concern rather than only clumsy manners
highly insensitive
vsabrasive
5.5

Being very uncaring about other people's feelings

is similar but often includes rough, direct manner as well

Antonyms

68 2.5

Showing care for other people's needs and feelings

11 4.0

Being careful and polite when speaking to avoid hurting people

Compounds

abrasive material
  • Specialized
4.2

A hard thing like sandpaper or diamond that wears down and smooths surfaces

How Rude

insulting
  • Offensive
130 3.0
harsh
289 2.8
abrasive
18 6.5
curt
2 7.2
blunt
100 3.8

Surface Forms

abrasive positive

Morphology

abrasive = abrade (semi-transparent) = abrade + ive

The adjectival form comes from 'abrade' + '-ive', but the sense 'harsh or brusque in manner' is a metaphorical extension from physical wearing to interpersonal manner.

Etymology

Abrasive for a person comes from the same idea: abrade meant 'to scrape', so an abrasive manner 'scrapes' at people's feelings and sounds rough or harsh.