Skip to main content
to kiss up

to kiss up

16 7.9
Say nice things to someone to get their help or a reward
  • phrasal verb
  • /kɪs ʌp/
  • Informal
translation icon : hacer la pelota (a alguien) (informal)
  • I will not kiss up to my boss.
  • kissing up to the boss
  • try to kiss up
  • just kissing up

And when you manage up, there's always the hierarchy above you don't, don't kiss up, manage up.

Autoplay Next

Examples

  • Instead, he kissed up to the zealots and loons and got utterly embarrassed in a blowout of epic proportions.

    Blog text (8)
  • I will not "kiss up" to my boss.

    Blog text (30)
  • Why am I kissing up to this guy?

  • I kissed up to him, I got the permit.

  • So, maybe you think I'm just kissing up and trying to get on her good side.

    Blog text (19)
  • They're all kissing up to him or to the queen, trying to get closer, trying to get access to the king.

  • Instead of backing me up, his wife, he's kissing up to the old man.

  • Hey, I'm not kissing up to the brass, but I've seen the way other facilities are run.

    Blog text (25)
  • Mind you, I'm not going to kiss up to these ladies and go uber-feminist to get in their good graces.

    Blog text (4)
  • If you want to get promoted, you need to kiss up to your manager more often.

Synonyms

to flatter
vsto kiss up
100 3.6

Praise someone with words you do not mean to get their help

is the wider tactic of trying to win favor through flattering or pleasing acts
to suck up
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
26 8.0

To praise someone to get their approval

includes flatter but emphasizes a general tactic to win personal advantage
to fawn
vsto kiss up
25 7.7

Act very friendly and praise someone to gain their favor

is broader, using flattery as one of several deliberate ways to gain favor
to sweet-talk
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
23 5.3

To persuade someone by saying nice things to them

is broader and can include speech or other pleasing actions to win favor
to butter up
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
13 4.2

Say nice things to someone to get what you want

aims more broadly to gain advantage through pleasing or ingratiating acts
to ingratiate
vsto kiss up
10 8.2

Try to make someone like you by praising them or doing kind things

aims to win favor often by flattering or pleasing over time
to curry favor
vsto kiss up
  • US
10 7.4

To try to get someone to like you by praising them or being too helpful

aims in general to win favor often through flattery or pleasing acts
to schmooze
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
9 8.6

To talk in a friendly way to make people like you and get an advantage

focuses more on deliberate praise or pleasing acts to secure personal advantage
to kiss ass
vsto kiss up
  • Offensive
8 9.5

To try to please someone in power to get an advantage

covers the same goal but applies to pleasing behaviour in any context
to cozy up
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
6 7.0

To try to make someone like you for your own advantage, often in a fake way

is similar but stresses planned flattering or pleasing efforts for advantage
to toady
vsto kiss up
1 9.1

Flatter and obey someone in power to get their favor

is similar but focuses on winning favor through pleasing behaviour generally
to play up
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
1 5.5

Try to get someone's approval by giving false praise

emphasizes deliberate pleasing actions aimed at personal advantage more widely
to honey
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
1 8.1

To speak very kindly to someone to get something from them

is the broader strategy of winning favor through praise or pleasing behaviour
to shine up
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
1 8.0

Try to make someone like you by giving fake praise or acting friendly

is the overall effort to gain advantage by flattering or pleasing someone
to honey up to
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
8.8

To please someone with too many compliments to get a favor

covers the same aim but is the general act of seeking personal advantage
to apple-polish
vsto kiss up
  • Informal
9.0

To give praise that is not real to get a favor

is the general tactic of trying to win favor by pleasing behaviour
to cotton up
vsto kiss up
  • UK
9.8

To act friendly to someone to get what you want

is similar but focuses on gaining practical advantage through pleasing actions
to lick someone's ass
vsto kiss up
  • Offensive
9.9

To praise someone too much to get their favor in a rude way

is the same overall aim but without the vulgar or coarse tone
to lick someone's boot
vsto kiss up
  • Offensive
8.9

Praise or act very friendly toward a boss to get something for yourself

expresses the same goal but in general aims to win favor through pleasing acts

Antonyms

524 2.8

Cause a person to feel hurt, upset and angry because of your words or actions

123 6.7

To make someone feel alone and lose support from others

How Sycophantic

to suck up
  • Informal
26 8.0
to kiss up
  • Informal
16 7.9
to ingratiate
10 8.2
to flatter
100 3.6
to compliment
95 1.6

Surface Forms

kiss up infinitive
kissed up past
kissed up past participle
kissing up present participle
kisses up third person singular

Morphology

kiss + up

Although the words 'kiss' and 'up' are familiar, the idiomatic meaning 'to flatter or ingratiate oneself' is a metaphorical extension rather than a directly compositional combination of the constituents. Learners might guess a general sense from context or from similar cross-linguistic idioms (e.g. 'kiss someone's ass'), but the specific slangy sense and particle usage are not fully predictable, so it is only partially transparent.

Etymology

Kiss up The phrasal verb kiss up comes from a clear image: someone offering kisses or praise and moving up toward a person in charge to win their approval. So kiss up means 'to praise or flatter someone to get an advantage'.