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wheedling

wheedling

1 7.8
Getting someone to do something by saying nice things and asking again and again
  • noun
  • /ˈwiːdəlɪŋ/
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  • Now he was one of the false allies, a wheedling, plausible man, who had been—one sensed—handsome in his youth and was still in the habit of behaving seductively.
  • wheedling voice
  • wheedling tone

Examples

  • Sophie used her wheedling charm to convince her parents to let her stay out late.

  • Sid's slow, soft, wheedling salesman voice, the roast and onion smell on his breath, and sometimes, hushing him, she'd take it in her hands.

    Fiction book (1991)
  • Josh's blue eyes were pleading as he looked up at Joe, and there was a wheedling note in his voice.

    Fiction book (2001)
  • Martin replied in Arabic, the wheedling whine of a supplicant who speaks to a superior.

    Fiction book (1994)
  • Appetite for Destruction was released, and it took another wheedling phone call from Geffen to a friend at MTV to get them any airplay.

    Blog text (15)
  • In that nervy way of hers, whenever she gets a crack at him, Sophie opens him up with wheedling and pestering, and gets what she wants.

    Fiction book (2001)
  • Their wheedling, whispery voices swirl when I carry my half-full garbage can to the corner or take one bowl and one spoon from the cupboard for dinner.

    Fiction book (2000)
  • At home, there was the bustle of baths and teeth brushing, evening wheedling and tears, and the shush of pajama feet on linoleum.

    Fiction book (1995)
  • He did not seem to mind the wheedling patter of Thandeka, who winked and gesticulated behind his back in comment on his infirmity and pride in his progress.

    Fiction book (1994)
  • His wheedling approach made it hard for her to say no to his request.

Synonyms

prodding
vswheedling
10 4.1

Encouragement from someone who keeps asking you to do something

is more about persuading through flattery and gentle repeated urging rather than pushing
coaxing
vswheedling
5 4.4

Gentle persuasion using praise or kind words to get someone to do something

is more focused on repeated gentle urging plus flattery to persuade
sweet talk
vswheedling
  • Informal
3 4.3

Flattering words that try to persuade someone but are not sincere

is less about obvious insincerity and more about gentle repeated urging with flattery
blandishment
vswheedling
  • Formal
2 9.8

A friendly compliment meant to persuade someone to do something

is the ongoing gentle urging by flattery rather than a single flattering act
cajolery
vswheedling
1 8.4

Gentle praise and kind words used to get someone to do something

is the same meaning but is a different word used similarly
soft soap
vswheedling
  • Informal
1 7.6

Insincere praise used to try to influence someone

is less about exaggerated praise and more about gentle persistent urging with flattery
gentle persuasion
vswheedling
1 3.9

To convince someone with kind words or calm actions

relies more on flattery and gentle repeated urging than just mild methods
ingratiation
vswheedling
9.1

Trying to make someone like you by saying nice things or doing favors

is aimed specifically at persuading someone to do something rather than only gaining favor
spurring
vswheedling
4.6

Words from a coach or friend that encourage someone to try something

is focused on persuading by flattery and gentle pressure rather than energetic urging
toadyism
vswheedling
9.9

A habit of flattering and obeying a person in power to gain favor

is about persuading someone to act by flattery and gentle urging not subservient behavior

How Persuasive

manipulation
130 5.5
persuasion
45 3.6
wheedling
1 7.8
coaxing
4.8
asking
1 1.0
suggestion
759 1.4

Surface Forms

wheedling singular
wheedlings plural

Morphology

wheedling = wheedle (transparent) = wheedle + ing

The noun sense is a gerund/nominal use of the verb 'wheedle' formed with '-ing', so the meaning (the act of persuading by flattery) is directly derived.

Etymology

Wheedling comes from the verb wheedle, which means 'to persuade by gentle flattery'. A helpful way to remember it is to imagine a soft, repeated 'whee' or whisper of praise that slowly convinces someone, so wheedling is gentle, persistent persuading.