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to unbend

to unbend

1 5.6
Relax and become less tense or formal
  • verb
  • /ʌnˈbɛnd/
: relajarse
  • A crystal-clear mind, unbending inner strength, yet hopelessly clumsy.

Examples

  • And you may even enjoy yourself if you unbend a bit.

    Fiction book (1999)
  • Some of the flowers shake themselves in the marsh-farm gardens, unbending, standing up straight again.

    Fiction book (2002)
  • Oh, I suppose you could learn to unbend a little now and then, but why would she not like you?

    Fiction book (1995)
  • Should she unbend more?

    Academic text (1997)
  • He would not unbend more than that, not for his own nameday.

    Fiction book (1992)
  • That should satisfy her so much she might unbend enough to say his name, which had not crossed her lips since the night he left home.

    Fiction book (1991)
  • When his mind unbends itself in a reverie, and without attending to any particular object, the ideas appear and glide away according to the caprice of undirected fancy...

    Academic text (2017)
  • She nodded her head in assent to her evaluation, placed her right hand on the bench, and, pushing, sliding, and humming, stood up, unbending slowly.

    Fiction book (1996)
  • Unbending—considerately, of course, with a solicitous hand—unbending with familiar pity, that is the characteristic art of Jesuitism which has always known how to introduce itself as a religion of pity.

    Academic text (2000)
  • After a long day at work, she likes to unbend by taking a warm bath and reading a good book.

Synonyms

to relax
vsto unbend
∞ 1.0

To feel less nervous and more calm

focuses on easing mental or social stiffness rather than general rest
to loosen up
vsto unbend
  • Informal
86 3.4

To relax and become less nervous or tense

is mainly about becoming mentally or socially less tense rather than only less formal
to unwind
vsto unbend
43 3.4

Become relaxed and less tense after work or a stressful time

applies more to easing mental or social tension not only after work
to rest easy
vsto unbend
  • Informal
23 4.2

Feel calm and not worried after someone reassures you

means to become mentally or socially less tense, not only feel reassured
to mellow out
vsto unbend
  • Informal
22 6.3

Become more relaxed and easygoing

is more neutral and social focused rather than casual change in mood
to decompress
vsto unbend
  • Informal
12 4.2

Relax and become less tense after work or stress

covers mental or social easing rather than only physical rest

How Relaxed

to unwind
43 3.4
to relax
∞ 1.0
to unbend
1 5.6
to tense up
  • Informal
11 3.7
to stiffen
34 3.7

Surface Forms

unbend infinitive
unbending present participle
unbends third person singular
unbent past
unbent past participle

Morphology

unbend = bend (semi-transparent) = un + bend

The meaning 'relax, become less tense' is a metaphorical extension from physical straightening, so the relation is recognizable but figurative.

Etymology

Unbend is built from un- meaning 'reverse' and bend meaning 'to curve' or 'to be stiff', and a helpful way to remember it is to picture a formal, stiff person who slowly relaxes. So to unbend is to loosen up and become less tense.