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standoffish

standoffish

9 7.1
Not friendly and keeping a distance from others
  • adjective
  • /ˌstændˈɔfɪʃ/
translation icon : distante
  • Many people found him standoffish because he preferred reading in the corner to socializing.

So I kept myself standoffish for a minute and for for a reason.

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Examples

  • Note, the new roommate was standoffish before L's friend came over.

    Blog text (27)
  • Despite her talent, she always seemed standoffish at parties, avoiding conversations and mingling.

  • But now I know it's just your, like, standoffish personality, you know?

  • And so they were a little standoffish.

    Academic text (2004)
  • When he first hit town just after the war, everyone was terribly standoffish.

  • My fiance got really quiet and was kind of standoffish the rest of the night.

  • People are more standoffish and reserved and into their own families, friends, and cliques.

    Blog text (11)
  • "So," Savannah said, "you're not so standoffish as you were the other day."

    Fiction book (1997)
  • The children were standoffish at first, and Trina, eleven, conscientiously refrained from calling him Dad.

    Fiction book (1996)
  • (Lily-Milly was a standoffish child who wouldn't even hug you on your birthday.)

    Fiction book (1991)

Synonyms

distant
vsstandoffish
61 4.9

Not friendly or warm, behaving in a quiet, cold way

is similar but can include brief politeness despite distance
aloof
vsstandoffish
34 6.3

Not friendly and distant, not joining in with other people

is comparable but often signals reserve rather than simple disinterest
detached
vsstandoffish
27 5.5

A person who is not affected by personal feelings and shows little emotion

is similar but focuses more on avoiding engagement than emotion
taciturn
vsstandoffish
5 8.4

A person who does not speak much and seems reserved

is about avoiding social contact rather than just silence
unapproachable
vsstandoffish
3 6.6

Not friendly and hard to talk to so people avoid them

is like that but may not actively push others away
avoidant
vsstandoffish
  • Specialized
1 7.7

Not wanting to feel close to others because it causes anxiety

is more about cool social distance than fear of closeness
offish
vsstandoffish
1 8.2

Not friendly and avoids talking to other people

is similar but can be less obviously cold in brief contact
unexpansive
vsstandoffish
8.6

Not talking much and not showing strong feelings

is like that but may also suggest mild coldness toward others
reserved
vsstandoffish
3.7

Not willing to show feelings or talk much

is more about being distant from others rather than just private
withdrawn
vsstandoffish
4.8

Someone who is quiet and prefers to be alone instead of being with others

is similar but may still interact briefly without seeking solitude

Antonyms

773 1.0

Kind and helpful toward other people

12 3.5

Holding your attention because it is pleasant or interesting

How Friendly

warm
280 1.0
friendly
773 1.0
reserved
3.7
standoffish
9 7.1
aloof
34 6.3
hostile
194 4.6

Surface Forms

standoffish positive
standoffisher comparative
standoffishest superlative

Morphology

standoffish = standoff (transparent) = standoff + ish

The adjective is a straightforward formation from the noun/phrase 'standoff' meaning keeping at a distance plus the adjectival suffix '-ish', yielding 'aloof' which learners can infer from the base.

Etymology

Standoffish comes from the phrase stand off ('to stay away' or 'keep distance') plus the ending -ish (meaning 'somewhat'). So a standoffish person keeps a clear distance and seems 'not friendly' or 'distant'.