to pull oneself together
- phrasal verb
- Informal
- After the upsetting news, she knew she had to pull herself together before meeting her friends.
- try to pull yourself together
- pull yourself together and go
- pull yourself together and get up
Examples
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You mind giving him just a couple of minutes to sort of pull himself together?
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I remember gently sobbing as I pulled myself together to finish the shift.
Academic text (2010) -
Try and pull yourself together.
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I mean, I had to get up and take a walk to pull myself together.
Blog text (13) -
Maria, I need you to pull yourself together.
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With great difficulty, she pulled herself together and they made their way to her car.
Fiction book (1994) -
Look, pull yourself together.
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I was in a daze as I pulled myself together and went to Basil.
Fiction book (1994) -
With a visible effort, he pulled himself together and went back to gently stroking his daughter's delicate head.
Fiction book (1995) -
Pull yourself together, Hartman.
Synonyms
Stay calm and control your feelings in a difficult situation
To calm down and control your feelings
Stay calm and control your feelings when things are hard
To stay calm and control your feelings in a difficult situation
Pause and think clearly before you speak or decide
Put your thoughts and feelings in order after a time of confusion
Make yourself calm again after being upset
Wake up and become calm after fainting or shock
To organize your thoughts and feelings after feeling confused or upset
Stop crying and feel calm again
To calm down and behave politely again after briefly losing control
To stay calm and in control during a difficult situation
Antonyms
How Calm
Surface Forms
Morphology
The components 'pull' + 'together' with the reflexive 'oneself' plausibly yield the idea of ‘bringing oneself together’ — i.e. assembling one’s state — so a learner can infer a connection to regaining composure. However, this is a metaphorical extension rather than a purely literal action, and the exact pragmatic sense (calming down / regaining control) is not fully predictable without some exposure, so it is only partially transparent.
Etymology
The phrasal verb pull oneself together comes from the simple picture of gathering messy things into one place: you pull loose items together to make a neat pile. So when someone pulls themselves together, they gather their feelings and 'calm down'.