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softy at heart

softy at heart

6.7
A person who seems tough but is kind and gentle inside
  • idiom
  • Informal
translation icon : blando de corazón
  • Despite his gruff exterior, Jack is a softy at heart who donates to charity every month.

Examples

  • Everyone thought Maria was strict, but she proved to be a softy at heart when she adopted the stray cat.

  • He's a real softy at heart!

  • Although he acts stern at work, he's really a softy at heart.

  • Don't let his tough exterior fool you; he's a softy at heart!

  • Even though he seems tough, he's a real softy at heart who cares deeply about his friends.

  • She may act tough, but she's a softy at heart, always helping those in need.

  • John talks big, but those who know him well understand that he is a softy at heart.

Synonyms

softie
vssofty at heart
  • Offensive
14 5.8

A person who shows strong feelings and is easily moved

is kind and gentle underneath a hard or unemotional outside
softy
vssofty at heart
  • Offensive
7 6.8

A person who shows strong feelings easily and is not tough

is genuinely kind and gentle despite a tough exterior

Antonyms

41 7.3

Not caring about other people's feelings or pain

1 7.2

Not feeling or showing pity for other people

How Kind

compassionate
151 3.7
softy at heart
  • Informal
6.7
kind
534 1.0
coldhearted
4 6.0
unkind
44 1.0

Surface Forms

Morphology

softy + at + heart

The meaning is directly derivable from the parts: 'softy' (a person lacking toughness) combined with the construction 'at heart' (meaning 'in one's core/inner feelings') yields 'inwardly gentle/kind.' The '... at heart' pattern is a common, compositional English schema (and paralleled in many languages), so a B1 learner who knows the constituent words should be able to infer the MWE's meaning.

Etymology

Softy at heart creates a clear picture of someone who looks tough on the outside but is soft inside. The word softy means a gentle person and heart means 'inside' or 'deep down', so the phrase means 'really kind and gentle' even when the person seems strict.