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prim and proper

prim and proper

3 7.0
Very formal and correct in clothes and manners, often strict and stiff
  • idiom
translation icon : correcta
  • I always think of people from the nineteenth century as being all prim and proper, but they weren't.
  • prim and proper lady
  • look prim and proper
  • prim and proper woman

And meanwhile, and, you know, when they're all like prim and proper and put together and with their drinks.

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Examples

  • She dabs her lips with her napkin, pretending to be all prim and proper.

    Fiction book (2002)
  • She's going to be prim and proper during the flight.

    Fiction book (2001)
  • Emily was already sitting prim and proper.

    Fiction book (1993)
  • A time when the core of society was rotten... even though on the surface it appeared prim and proper.

    Blog text (19)
  • Conservatives were like the prim and proper family members who told you never to speak of sex, religion, or politics at the dinner table.

    Blog text (26)
  • "Yes, Frances?" Edwina pretended to look very prim and proper.

    Fiction book (1991)
  • I think of Ora sitting as prim and proper as any antebellum lady, and I feel a jangling of the nerves, a ripple of excitement.

    Fiction book (2000)
  • So prim and proper they looked now, who had a moment before faced each other down like cats, like panthers, lionesses—marvelous creatures in any case, lithe and fetching, then and now.

    Fiction book (2000)
  • That's why the defense often chooses the older women and mothers to remain on the jury, because prim and proper as they might present themselves to the outside world, they've seen it all and aren't as phased by the excesses to which men go and the idiotic things they do.

    Blog text (21)
  • Her prim and proper demeanor made her the ideal candidate for a corporate job.

Synonyms

formal
vsprim and proper
  • Formal
394 3.0

Official and proper in a way suitable for important occasions

is more about strict often prudish correctness than ceremonial use
dignified
vsprim and proper
71 4.6

Calm and serious in a way that shows self respect and gets respect from others

is more about strict correctness and stiffness rather than calm respectability
pompous
vsprim and proper
57 5.8

Acting more important and formal than necessary

is about strict correctness and prudish stiffness rather than self-importance
gentlemanly
vsprim and proper
17 4.4

Polite and considerate in a calm, respectful way

is more about strict formality and prudish stiffness than honorable politeness
genteel
vsprim and proper
14 7.7

Polite and elegant in a way that tries to impress others

is very formal and correct often seeming stiff rather than elegant
prissy
vsprim and proper
  • Informal
13 7.9

Too fussy about being neat and proper

is very formal and stiff rather than merely easily shocked
well-mannered
vsprim and proper
10 2.9

Polite and respectful to other people

is stricter and more formal often seeming prudish rather than simply polite
courtly
vsprim and proper
  • Literature
6 7.2

Polite and elegant like people at a royal court

is less about elegant ceremony and more about strict conventional correctness
decorous
vsprim and proper
  • Formal
3 7.9

Polite and showing good manners in formal situations

is very formal and stiff rather than merely polite and tasteful
mannerly
vsprim and proper
1 4.1

Polite and behaving well around other people

is more rigidly formal and correct sometimes seeming prudish
mannerable
vsprim and proper
  • Archaic
1 7.3

Being polite and treating people with respect

is more about strict ceremony and stiffness than general polite behaviour
primy
vsprim and proper
  • Archaic
9.9

Too formal and neat in a way that feels cold

is very formal and stiff rather than only narrowly fussy
mim
vsprim and proper
  • UK
9.9

Being very shy and careful about manners

is more broadly formal and strict rather than only modest behaviour
stiffish
vsprim and proper
6.7

A little formal and not warm in how someone acts

is fully very formal and correct rather than only mildly rigid
ladyish
vsprim and proper
  • Archaic
7.2

Having neat, polite style and manners like a proper woman

is about general severe formality rather than gendered refined behaviour
pontifical
vsprim and proper
  • Offensive
9.1

Acting very serious and proud in a way that annoys others

is more about strict social correctness than formal solemn self-importance

Antonyms

98 3.1

Not formal or official, relaxed and casual

unrefined
  • Offensive
1 6.0

A person who lacks good manners or social skills

How Proper

prudish
8 7.1
prim and proper
3 7.0
prim
8 7.9
proper
596 2.2
well-behaved
25 2.8

Surface Forms

prim and proper positive

Morphology

prim + and + proper

The overall sense of being excessively proper and formal is directly built from 'prim' (overly neat/fastidious) + 'proper' (correct, socially appropriate); the coordination simply reinforces those properties rather than introducing a novel idiomatic meaning. This adjective-and-adjective pattern is compositional and cross-linguistically common, so a B1 learner who knows both constituents should be able to infer the MWE's meaning.

Etymology

Prim and proper paints a clear picture: someone sitting very straight, with tight lips and neat clothes. The word prim suggests neat, careful dress and the word proper suggests correct manners, so together they mean 'very formal and correct'.