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shrinking violet

shrinking violet

4 8.1
A shy person who avoids standing out
  • idiom
  • /ˈʃrɪŋkɪŋ ˈvaɪlɪt/
  • Informal
translation icon : persona tímida
  • Despite her accomplishments, she prefers to stay quiet and avoid attention, which is why she is often seen as a shrinking violet.
  • shrinking violet," says

I wasn't that shrinking Violet when I met the narcissist.

Examples

  • She definitely does not come off as a shrinking violet to me.

    Blog text (26)
  • Of course she replied to his letters, the shrinking violet, my father says.

    Fiction book (2002)
  • Sharon turned at last to the shrinking violet at the foot of the bed.

    Fiction book (1996)
  • Now's not the time to be a shrinking violet.

    Blog text (3)
  • Greta Christina's no shrinking violet.

    Blog text (14)
  • Not at all a shrinking violet as Tito made her out to be, Luciana is a woman who knows how to get what she wants.

    Academic text (1997)
  • I found that dating men who are into traditional gender norms just didn't work for me because I am no shrinking violet at all.

    Blog text (19)
  • Stemberg also said that Mitt Romney was no shrinking violet and wasn't concerned about his friend entering politics when he decided to run for governor of Massachusetts.

    Blog text (9)
  • At the party, he remained a shrinking violet, standing in the corner and watching everyone else dance.

  • He is no shrinking violet; he speaks up about his opinions even when they are controversial.

Synonyms

mouse
vsshrinking violet
  • Informal
54 7.8

A quiet, shy person who is easily overlooked

actively avoids attracting notice rather than merely being unnoticed
shy person
vsshrinking violet
4 2.5

A person who feels nervous around others and avoids social situations

avoids drawing attention more actively than simple nervousness
milquetoast
vsshrinking violet
  • Offensive
3 9.9

A person who is very shy and does not speak up

avoids attention more as a habit rather than only lacking courage

Antonyms

715 2.5

Feeling sure about yourself or what will happen

How Shy

recluse
22 7.8
shrinking violet
  • Informal
4 8.1

Surface Forms

Morphology

shrink + violet

The adjective 'shrinking' clearly suggests recoiling or timidity, and 'violet' evokes smallness/delicacy, so a learner who knows both words could partially infer a meaning related to being timid. However, the specific idiomatic use (flower/color + shrinking = a shy person) relies on cultural metaphorical knowledge and is not fully predictable, so the sense may not be obvious without prior exposure.

Etymology

The idiom shrinking violet may come from the small flower violet and the idea of shrinking back. Violets are tiny and often hide under leaves, so they seem quiet and shy, and that's why the phrase means 'a very shy person' who avoids attention.