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to let someone down gently

to let someone down gently

3 4.3
To end a relationship or give bad news in a way that hurts less
  • phrasal verb
translation icon : dejar a alguien de forma suave
  • She decided to let him down gently with an honest but kind conversation.
  • try to let someone down gently

Examples

  • Let him down gently.

    The Shrimp on the Barbie (1990)

  • Okay, but please, let him down gently.

    Man on the Moon (1999)

  • You gotta let him down gently.

    Tootsie (1982)

  • ...and blew smoke up my ass, and then let me down gently.

    Last Chance Charlene (2022)

  • He wanted to let her down gently, not to hurt her more than was necessary.

    Fiction book (1995)

  • But a friend of mine, who’s now married but used to be quite the dater in her day, recently told me how she used to let guys down gently.

    Blog text (7)

  • He wanted to let her down gently because he cared about her feelings.

  • It's important to let someone down gently when ending a relationship to avoid unnecessary hurt.

Synonyms

to let down gently
vsto let someone down gently
1 3.5

Tell someone bad news in a kind way

is the same meaning but uses a slightly different word order
to break it to someone
vsto let someone down gently
4.6

To tell someone bad news gently

is specific to ending relationships or to avoid causing embarrassment

How Gentle

to soften the blow
  • Informal
8 4.7
to let someone down gently
3 4.3
to break up with
  • Informal
417 3.4
to dump
  • Informal
501 5.1

Surface Forms

let someone down gently infinitive

Morphology

let + someone + down + gently

The core phrasal verb 'let someone down' has an idiomatic sense of disappointing or rejecting that is not fully predictable from the literal meanings of 'let' and 'down', while 'gently' simply specifies the manner. A B1 learner knowing the words might guess a negative action or soft manner but would probably not reliably infer the specific sense of ending a relationship or delivering bad news without prior exposure.

Etymology

Let someone down gently comes from the picture of lowering a person carefully from a high place: to let someone down slowly so they are not 'hurt', and gently shows care. So it now means to end a relationship or give bad news in a way that avoids 'hurt' or embarrassment.