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confidante

confidante

15 6.6
A woman you trust with your secrets
  • noun
  • /ˌkɒnfɪˈdɑːnteɪ/
translation icon : amiga de confianza
  • Ella Somerville was a friend and confidante of Eudora Welty, Stark Young, William Faulkner, and many others, including myself.
  • her close confidante

Examples

  • I am his true confidante, the one he turns to in times of trouble.

    Fiction book (1994)
  • Now she returns to Constantinople as a close friend and confidante of Empress Theodora.

  • You have been my best friend, my confidante, my world for the last five years.

  • I am a good confidante, and I'll tell you the secret: never offer advice, merely listen.

    Fiction book (1999)
  • Faye was my best friend and, since my mother's death, my only confidante.

    Fiction book (2000)
  • You have been my companion, my shadow and confidante, my comfort and playmate.

    Blog text (7)
  • Lovely, dazzling, darling Frau K., who was my confidante, my teacher, my sister, my friend.

    Fiction book (1993)
  • For her clients, Mrs. Bowen functioned as caregiver, confidante, and manager of the home environment.

    Academic text (1994)
  • Agnes Moorehead confided to close friend and confidante, Debbie Reynolds, “I should never have taken that part.”

  • She has always been my closest confidante, someone I can share my secrets with.

Synonyms

best friend
vsconfidante
940 1.0

A person you trust most and talk to about everything

is specifically a woman who is told personal secrets
confidant
vsconfidante
30 5.1

A person you trust with your private thoughts or problems

is specifically a woman entrusted with secrets
loyal friend
vsconfidante
10 1.0

A person who always supports you and can be trusted

is specifically a woman who is chosen to be told secrets
consigliere
vsconfidante
8 9.9

A trusted advisor to a leader, often in a criminal group like the Mafia

is specifically a woman trusted with personal secrets not as an official adviser
intimate
vsconfidante
5 5.1

A close friend you share personal things with

is specifically a woman who is trusted to keep secrets
trusted advisor
vsconfidante
4 3.4

A person who gives reliable advice to someone over time

is specifically a woman trusted to receive personal secrets rather than only advise

Antonyms

1.0

A person you do not know

26 6.3

A person who breaks someone's trust by revealing secrets

How Trusted

best friend
940 1.0
confidante
15 6.6
lady friend
  • Informal
40 3.7

Surface Forms

confidante singular
confidantes plural

Morphology

confidante = confidant (semi-transparent) = confidant + e

The relation to 'confidant' (and the verb 'confide') is clear, but the final '-e' is a borrowed feminine/orthographic marker and the gendered distinction is not a productive, fully transparent English derivation.

Etymology

The word confidante comes from the Latin root confidere, which means 'to trust', and it reached English through French as a female form for a trusted friend. It shares the same root as confide and confidence, so a confidante is a woman you can safely tell your secrets to.