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Tom

Tom

9 9.9
A rude word for a Black man seen as too willing to obey white people
  • noun
  • Slur
: Tío Tom (insulto)
  • Sure, the progressives will paint those factions as 'uncle toms' or the like, but with numbers there is strength
  • a peeping tom

Examples

  • Rumrunners, bootleggers, scofflaws, every tom, dick, and Harry has a double life of some sort these days.

  • Armstrong: Yes, well, they may call me a tom, but I didn't treat my people the way you did yours.

    Fiction book (2001)
  • Some people labeled him a tom for always helping white colleagues while ignoring issues in the Black community.

  • In discussions about racial equality, terms like tom are often used to criticize those seen as overly accommodating.

  • He was called a tom because he often avoided conflict with his white peers, trying to stay on their good side.

Antonyms

248 2.3

Admired by many people for good qualities

94 2.4

A person who has the same rights, status, or abilities as another

Compounds

17 9.9

A person who secretly watches people, usually through windows, for sexual reasons

4 8.1

A round drum played in drum kits or at ceremonies

2 4.6

A tall cold drink made with gin, lemon juice, sugar, and fizzy water served over ice

1 9.9

A male turkey

1 9.3

A very small person used as a playful name

long tom
  • Archaic
1 9.9

A large gun on a ship with a long barrel used in sea battles

9.9

A warm drink that has rum, brandy, sugar, and a beaten egg, often served at Christmas

How Subservient

Tom
  • Slur
9 9.9
servile
5 7.4
subservient
17 7.6
deferent
  • Formal
1 7.7
independent
879 2.3

Surface Forms

Tom singular
Toms plural

Etymology

Tom comes from the book character Uncle Tom in Harriet Beecher Stowe's Uncle Tom's Cabin. Because that character was shown as very patient and obedient to white owners, people began using Tom as an insult for a Black man seen as too 'obedient' to white people, so it is now a deeply offensive word.