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speaking to

speaking to

62 7.0
A short talk telling someone they did something wrong
  • noun
  • Informal
translation icon : regaño
  • She received a firm speaking to for being late to class too many times.

Examples

  • The teacher gave the student a speaking to after he was caught cheating on the test.

  • After the incident, he knew he was due for a speaking to from his supervisor.

  • "Do you want to go this year?" she said, speaking to me over her shoulder.

    Fiction book (1990)
  • Would you please do me the courtesy of looking at me when I'm speaking to you?

  • At dinner that night, I realized my parents weren't speaking to each other.

    Fiction book (2000)
  • Now, the first time I spoke to Quincy, I was getting reprimanded.

  • Mr McCall, are you not speaking to me because you're mad at me?

Synonyms

speech
vsspeaking to
  • Informal
184 4.8

A long talk that tells someone they did wrong

is a brief or ordinary reprimand rather than a long formal lecture
scolding
vsspeaking to
7 3.3

A strong angry talk that tells someone they did something wrong

is any reprimand but may be less angry or less harsh in tone
talking-to
vsspeaking to
  • Informal
3 5.8

A firm telling someone they did something wrong

is any instance of being reproved and not always delivered firmly
talking to
vsspeaking to
  • Informal
1 4.2

A serious scolding from someone like a parent or boss

is the general term for a reprimand rather than a named occasion

Antonyms

161 1.0

Words or actions that show admiration for someone

commendation
  • Formal
39 6.8

An official award or letter praising someone for good work

How Severe

censure
  • Formal
141 7.4
rebuke
22 6.8
reprimand
  • Formal
24 6.1
speaking to
  • Informal
62 7.0
warning
1.0

Surface Forms

speaking to singular
speakings to plural

Morphology

speaking + to

The noun sense 'a reprimand' is derivable from the idea of someone 'speaking to' another in order to rebuke them, so there is a clear relation to the constituents. However the nominalized, idiomatic use ('a speaking-to'/'a talking-to') relies on a pragmatically specialized sense of 'speak to' (and is informal/British), which is not fully predictable for a B1 learner who only knows the literal meanings of 'speaking' and 'to'.

Etymology

Speaking to comes from the simple image of someone speaking to you — a parent, teacher, or boss giving a serious talk to correct your behaviour. So, the phrase came to mean 'a reprimand' or 'a telling-off'.