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softness

softness

1 7.9
A quality in men of being gentle or emotional rather than traditionally masculine
  • noun
  • /ˈsɔːftnəs/
  • Slur
translation icon : [OFENSIVO] afeminidad
  • His reluctance to engage in confrontations was viewed as a sign of softness in a traditionally tough environment.
  • feminine softness

Examples

  • People blame the fall of the West on Christian softness, and they're right.

    Blog text (15)
  • The right wing has always taken advantage of liberal "softness," unwillingness to stand up to them, which is standing up for freedom and human rights.

    Blog text (11)
  • One sent a boy to Groton to save him from the selfishness and softness of his secure place.

    Academic text (1996)
  • He was a middle-aged man, running to weight and softness.

    Fiction book (1991)
  • FAIR thought that Castillo's "softness" had much to do with his excessive "liberalism" toward undocumented residents.

    Academic text (2001)
  • The late Barry Rubin, who was present, subsequently commented: "Unaccustomed to being attacked for excessive softness on Israel, Aziz looked astonished."

    Academic text (2015)
  • He cooked meals for his father, played checkers with him, and laundered his work underpants, as if he read a softness and weakness in him no one else could see.

    Fiction book (1994)
  • Many critics argue that his emotional openness and gentleness are signs of softness rather than strength.

  • The coach warned his team that any sign of softness would be exploited by their opponents.

Synonyms

effeminacy
vssoftness
  • Offensive
1 9.1

A quality of having traits seen as typical of women and thought not manly in men

is the same judgement but presented as a personal weakness or lack
unmanliness
vssoftness
  • Offensive
8.2

The state of being seen as not brave or strong by other people

is a derogatory term focusing on a man's gentle, nonmasculine behaviour
effeminateness
vssoftness
  • Offensive
9.9

A quality of being like a woman often used to criticise a man

focuses on judging a man for not fitting traditional masculine norms

Antonyms

43 4.1

Qualities and behaviors people associate with being a man

14 3.5

A situation or task that is hard to deal with

How Masculine

masculinity
43 4.1
manliness
8 4.4
softness
  • Slur
1 7.9
effeminacy
  • Offensive
1 9.1

Surface Forms

softness singular
softnesses plural

Morphology

softness = soft (semi-transparent) = soft + ness

The derogatory sense extends 'soft' to mean 'lacking traditional masculine toughness'; the derivation is clear but culturally loaded and not fully predictable for all learners.

Etymology

Softness comes from the old word soft plus the ending -ness meaning 'quality', and soft was used to mean 'not hard or tough', so people used it to describe a lack of the usual strength expected of men. So this sense of softness means the 'quality of being seen as not traditionally strong' and is often used as an insult.