to learn the hard way
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6.0
- idiom
- Informal
:
aprender por las malas
- After making several mistakes, I finally learned the hard way that I should have listened to the advice I was given.
What's the lesson you learnt the hard way that still impacts your life today?
- What's the lesson you learnt the hard way that still impacts your life today?
- And I have learned the hard way that coach is right.
- And what I've learned the hard way, do not do what I did.
- Until you figure it out for yourself or learn the hard way, you just don't learn, do you?
- We have learned the hard way that anything can happen back on the road.
- But yeah, Uncle John says what's something you had to learn the hard way?
- And that's how we learned the hard way to never trust a fart and print.
- Why did we learn the hard way to do that?
- OK, it's not that bad, it's not that bad, but I just always learn the hard way.
- Me, myself and I, I have learned the hard way and I just absolutely will not involve partners.
- And so some people have bad judgement and they don't know and they, they, they learn the hard way or they get stung or they get abused or whatever.
- But what you learn, and what I certainly learn the hard way, is that professional success does not equal happiness.
- She doesn't learn from my life lessons, She won't learn from my wife's life lessons and the people that are around her and she's going to learn the hard way.
- This has been something I've had to learn the hard way, where things I've mentioned or told people have then been used against me.
- So one of the tips that I've learned the hard way is you always want to put in, oops, the wet ingredients first, especially when you're blending.
Examples
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I told Zoe that if she went to that rave, she was gonna learn the hard way.
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We have learned the hard way that anything can happen back on the road.
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Why did we learn the hard way to do that?
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I feel like I learned the hard way a little bit.
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And I have learned the hard way that coach is right.
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Sometimes people gotta learn the hard way.
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I had to learn the hard way.
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And I learned the hard way that life is not an adventure.
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Unfortunately, I've learned the hard way that it's better too soon than too late.
Fiction book (2001) -
When it comes to paying taxes, many politicians have learned the hard way that public opinion can be fickle.
Academic text (1990)
Synonyms
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3.4
A person notices they made a mistake and does things differently to avoid it again
Antonyms
How Hard
- Informal
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Surface Forms
Morphology
The phrase is compositionally built from 'learn' (to acquire knowledge) + 'the hard way' (by a difficult method), so the sense 'to discover through difficult experiences' follows directly from the constituent meanings. This is a common, transparent construction with clear cross-linguistic parallels, so a B1 learner who knows the words would likely infer the meaning without prior exposure.
Etymology
The phrase learn the hard way comes from a simple image: you learn by a hard and painful way, like touching a hot stove and getting burned. So, it means 'to find out something through difficult or painful experiences rather than by being taught or warned'.