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hell mend him

hell mend him

9.9
Showing no sympathy when someone suffers from their own choices
  • idiom
  • Offensive
translation icon : que se joda (vulgar)
  • You can't help someone who won't help themselves; hell mend him.

Examples

  • If he chooses to ignore the rules, then hell mend him!

  • If they want to ignore advice, then hell mend them.

  • He was warned about the risks, but hell mend him if he ignores them.

  • If she spends all her money again, hell mend her.

  • He was warned about the risks, but hell mend him if he ignores them.

  • If they want to ignore advice, then hell mend them.

  • If she spends all her money again, hell mend her.

Synonyms

to teach someone a lesson
vshell mend him
  • Informal
139 4.2

Punish someone so they learn not to do it again

expresses wanting them to suffer rather than correct their behaviour
to face the music
vshell mend him
  • Informal
19 4.5

Accept and deal with unpleasant results or criticism for something you did

is more about wishing they suffer with indifference than coping with results
to get what's coming to someone
vshell mend him
  • Informal
13 6.7

To receive punishment or bad results for doing wrong

expresses that they should suffer with indifference or no sympathy
to pay the piper
vshell mend him
  • Informal
9 7.7

Accept the bad result of something you did

often expresses cold satisfaction that they should suffer for those actions
to take one's lumps
vshell mend him
  • Informal
2 8.1

To accept unpleasant results and sometimes punishment for something you did

is a harsher wish for someone to suffer rather than accept calmly
to get one's lumps
vshell mend him
  • Informal
8.6

To be punished for something you did wrong

is used to demand their suffering without sympathy
to make your bed and lie in it
vshell mend him
  • Informal
7.0

To accept the bad results of your own choices

expresses a lack of sympathy while saying they must suffer for choices

Antonyms

333 2.2

An act of letting go of anger toward someone after they hurt you

273 1.8

Feeling of understanding and sharing another person's sadness

How Severe

to rot in hell
  • Offensive
19 9.7
hell mend him
  • Offensive
9.9
too bad
  • Informal
643 3.3

Surface Forms

Morphology

Hell + mend + him

The literal meanings of 'hell' (a place of suffering) + 'mend' (to repair) + 'him' do not compose to the idiomatic sense of wishing someone suffer or be left to consequences; a learner who knows the constituents would not predict this evaluative/expletive use. This phrase is dialectal/idiomatic and its force is language-specific and unpredictable, so it would be opaque to a B1 learner.

Etymology

Hell mend him may come from older wishes like 'God mend him' but turned into a rude image: imagine sending someone to hell to be mended, meaning 'fixed', rather than helped. So people say it to show they do not care if someone 'suffers' or gets the bad result of their actions.