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what's eating at you

what's eating at you

1 7.9
To ask what is bothering someone
  • idiom
  • Informal
translation icon : qué te preocupa
  • What's eating at you, Linc baby?

Examples

  • I could tell something was wrong, so I asked her, "What's eating at you?"

  • During our conversation, he suddenly paused and said, "What's eating at you?"

  • When he seemed upset, I gently inquired, "What's eating at you?"

Synonyms

to eat
vswhat's eating at you
  • Informal
253 7.2

Make someone worry a lot about something and feel bad inside

asks someone to identify the specific cause of that worry
what's the matter
vswhat's eating at you
  • Informal
161 2.0

A question asking why someone is upset or not feeling well

asks about what is bothering someone without necessarily showing concern
to eat at
vswhat's eating at you
  • Informal
14 7.1

Gradually make someone feel worse or less confident

asks what is causing the slow internal harm instead of naming the damage
to nag
vswhat's eating at you
5 3.9

To feel a small, constant worry that bothers you

asks about the reason for the repeated troubling rather than causing it
to weigh on someone's mind
vswhat's eating at you
1 6.0

To make someone feel worried for a long time

asks another person what is causing that ongoing worry

How Troubled

what's eating at you
  • Informal
1 7.9
what's the matter
  • Informal
161 2.0

Surface Forms

Morphology

what's + eat + at + you

The verb 'eat' is used metaphorically here ('to gnaw at, bother') and combined with 'at you' to indicate something troubling someone; this gives learners a partial clue to the meaning. However, the idiomatic collocation and transferred sense are not fully predictable from the literal meanings alone, so a B1 learner may need prior exposure to be certain.

Etymology

The phrase what's eating at you may come from the image of something slowly eating at you, like a small worm or rust quietly wearing something away. That's why the question asks what is 'bothering' you.